What if it’s never too late to live happily ever after? Even when that seems impossible?

What if it’s never too late to live happily ever after? Even when that seems impossible?

Have you seen “Bee Movie”?

Circa 2007?

I only caught the opening scene – on a TV mounted in the ceiling while my six-year-old got his teeth cleaned – but let me tell you, it was money. Allow me to recap:

“According to all known laws of aviation, there is no way that a bee should be able to fly. Its wings are too small to get its fat little body off the ground. The bee, of course, flies anyway. Because bees don’t care what humans think is impossible.”

I know, I know – some researchers disagree (read all about why HERE and HERE), but I’m sticking with it. Not buying in to what some humans think serves me well. Surprising my doubters is deeply satisfying. Doing the impossible is undeniably fun.

Still skeptical?

Maybe that’s because you’ve been relying on hoping and wishing and even praying for things to get better. Maybe you’ve talked to your sisters and your girlfriends and your mother for advice. Maybe you saw a therapist – on your own or together as a couple. Or maybe you’ve kept it all to yourself, trusting that you could figure this out if you just tried hard enough and paid enough attention.

Trust me. I hear you. I get it. I really do.

I’m Candice Toone and just a few years ago, I was you. Over the course of our marriage, my husband and I worked with at least five therapists – sometimes together, sometimes me on my own. We sought support from our clergy and advice from our parents. Even with that support, we were dissatisfied, disconnected and discouraged. We knew married life could be better than what we had, but the gap between here and there seemed impossible to close.

There was always one more book to read, conversation to have or date night to go on. Nothing stuck.

Then a friend recommended a life coach podcast that changed my world. Things didn’t get better right away, but I began to see room for wiggling the way I thought about my husband, my relationship and myself. I learned that however “justified” my despair, justification didn’t help me feel better. Justification just gave me a good reason to feel bad. I wanted more than that.

So I kept listening.

When I learned that resentment comes from unmet needs, I knew that the place to begin fixing my marriage was to fix my relationship with me. I signed up for a group coaching program as well as private 1-1 sessions. The momentum and movement in my marriage was unlike anything I’d experienced before. It seemed possible to find love in my marriage again. I was nothing short of transformed by the work I did with my coach.

I understand how it feels to wonder if he sees you.

Like you, I’ve worried about the example we were setting for our kids.

I believe that every wife ought to feel cherished and valued. Appreciated and adored.

I know we can make that happen.

Even if it seems impossible to you.

Here’s the truth.

I love you.

And I respect your husband.

I’ve already decided to believe that both of you are doing your best and I’m here to help you figure out how to make your best even better.

Because “for better or worse” is no joke.

Because sometimes it’s a little shocking to find out what “for better or worse” really means.

But it’s nothing you can’t handle. You’re a loving, smart, committed woman. You’re dedicated and willing to do hard work. You’ve done hard things before. Nothing is impossible for you, friend.

As your coach, I won’t spend time agreeing that your husband is terrible or suggest you should leave your marriage. I won’t suggest you should stay either. I have no idea what you should do. I only know that you and I can get you to the place where your mind is clear enough that you’ll know exactly what to do and you’ll feel sure of yourself as you make your dream relationship happen.

Ready to get started?

In my Defying Gravity coaching program, we’ll work together to reunite you with the woman living deep inside you. The woman whose dreams and desires have been buried and forgotten under the burdens of the day to day. Because you know who actually completes you?

Her.

And once you connect with her again, connecting with your husband will be a breeze. Promise.

How does it work?

Click below to access my calendar and set up a no obligation consultation – be sure to choose the YELLOW dot! Once that’s set, we’ll jump on a call together and spend time examining the current state of your marriage. You’ll describe the changes you’d like to see. I’ll share my perspective and some ideas on where you can go from here.

We’ll discuss continued one-one coaching and you’ll walk away from the call armed with at least one practical tip you can use in your life right away.

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