Episode 19 – No Expectations?! No Thanks!

The first time I show one of my Bees how her husband’s behavior isn’t in charge of her feelings, she almost always responds with some silence, some side eye and then some version of the phrase… “but… it effects me.”

I always answer with, “Totally.” ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Then she gives me more side eye.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀


I go on to explain that OF COURSE your husband’s choices, words and behavior effect you. OF COURSE THEY DO. The trick is – YOU get to decide HOW his choices, words and behavior effect you.

Listen in this week to find out how to choose on purpose – every time. 

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I’m Candice.

I believe that every wife ought to feel cherished and valued. Appreciated and adored. I know we can make that happen. Even if it seems impossible to you. I’m a Master Certified Life Coach and I spend my days coaching women who are afraid in their marriages. You and I can work together to find a way for you to trust in your own decisions instead of constantly reacting to his. Now’s your time, Bee. How much longer are you willing to wonder and wait?