The Story of the New Guy

“She’s new.” is one of my favorites to stave of irritation and breed compassion. When the lady at Target takes 250 years to ring up my purchases or one of my co-workers responds in what seems like a blaming tone, I sit back and remember that “she’s new” – even if she isn’t.

Here’s why. I’ve been new at things before. I get that it may be tough to figure things out. I know what it is to feel stressed when someone’s waiting on you or insecure because I may have done something wrong.

So when somebody’s doing what is probably her best in a high stress situation, I just remind myself that “she’s new” and I find compassion where anger or judgement might have cropped up before.

Cuz compassion feels better TO ME. And I don’t have to worry about doing or saying something I might regret if I let frustration take the lead. Life is better for me when I lead with love. I can live closer to the person I want to be with compassion as my fuel.

This goes for husbands too. No matter how long you’ve been married, you could to choose to believe that “he’s new” to each new situation and each new minute in your life together. “He’s new. He’s figuring it out.” And you can totally get that and love him through it because you’re new too.

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I’m Candice.

I believe that every wife ought to feel cherished and valued. Appreciated and adored. I know we can make that happen. Even if it seems impossible to you. I’m a Master Certified Life Coach and I spend my days coaching women who are afraid in their marriages. You and I can work together to find a way for you to trust in your own decisions instead of constantly reacting to his. Now’s your time, Bee. How much longer are you willing to wonder and wait?