My youngest daughter is obsessed with washing her own hair.
So “washing” her hair essentially means that she squeezes half a bottle of shampoo into the tub and then rubs another generous portion in small circles on the crown of her bone dry head.
You could say that she’s not so hot at the whole “washing your own hair” game.
But that’s not what she says.
She looks me dead in the face – sparkling eyes and the world’s biggest smile – and says:
“I’m washing my hair, Mommy. I’m doing great!”
I’m never going to ever correct her.
Why would I?
She’s doing her three year old best and because she keeps doing it, she gets the hang of it a little more every time. And she feels amazing about herself as she goes.
When’s the last time you evaluated your progress through eyes like hers?
With the only criteria being that you gathered the tools you thought you’d need, you dove in and you did your best?
Even if other people might say you bombed.
Even if none of it turns out the way you were expecting.
You could still choose to believe, “I’m doing great!”
Remember that your life – including your marriage – always follows your most dominant thought.
If you held tight to believing, “I’m doing great!” all week this week, how might your marriage be different?
What would you see that you’ve been missing?
About you? About him? About the two of you together?
Nothing to lose. Shining eyes and a giant smile to gain.
You’re doing great already.
Go look for evidence of how that’s true.